Creating a Work/Life Balance

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We live in a TOUGH world ladies and gentlemen.

Here in the tri-state area the average person works 49 hours a WEEK.

How does one find time for their lives when so much of it is accounted for on the job? And majority of the remaining hours needs to go to sleep, which is crucial for your body’s repair and regeneration (in other words, you need sleep to thrive).

Creating a healthy work/life balance is not easy for many reasons. We want to succeed and to do that, we need to set ourselves apart from the rest of the pack. One of the best ways to do that is to show your commitment to your team. To show your commitment, you must be willing to put in the time, effort, and passion.

Part of the reason you want to succeed at work is for your own gratification, because it feels good to be good at something and to grow and flourish. The other part is so you can support your loved ones and have a fulfilling life outside of work.

Unfortunately, it is really not easy to balance the two. How do you succeed at work without sacrificing your personal life and vice versa.

I’m nowhere near where I want to be when it comes to the dance between work and life, but I have made some major changes over the past 9 months to help.

  1. Create Boundaries - I turn off the notifications on my phone at 830PM and don’t turn them on again until I get on the train the next morning. Of course if there is something pressing that I may want to get an update on, I check my e-mail before bed quickly and when I get up. In my profession, I need to know what my boss’s plan is for the day, sometimes he lets us know overnight. If you are able to, turn off your notifications by 6pm and don’t check your e-mail again until you get to work.

  2. Do More of What You Love, Even If You Are Tired - No matter how tired I am, I always do yoga, or read, or make time to snuggle with my husband and dog. They make me feel good and give me life. But that also does lead me to my next point…

  3. Get Quality Sleep - Everyone seems to be different but on average, majority of people need 7-8 hours of sleep. Try to make it happen. Trust me, you’ll feel better.

  4. Be In The Moment -  Whether I am in my “work” or in my “life”, I always stay present. It helps my brain separate Church and State. This is most important for those times when you are in your “life”. Stay present and 100% there. Not in your e-mails and not in other people’s social media posts (note: I’m still learning this one).

  5. Divide & Conquer - We all have chores and errands that need our attention in our home life. Sometimes they can feel overwhelming and like “work”. What I have found works best is delegating certain tasks to others. Have your husband cook on Sunday instead, make him in charge of the dry cleaning and dishes. Hire someone to come do a big clean of the house once a month. Even if it’s not EXACTLY how you would have done it, if it allows you to take something off your plate, do it.

  6. Prioritizing/Time Management - No matter how long your to-do list is, you need to make a plan on how you are going to get it all done. Be realistic about timing, give yourself cushion, and ALWAYS factor in some down time and breaks to keep the balance. Breaks are essential to getting it all done.

  7. Don’t Overcommit - I am the BIGGEST culprit of this. I agree to go somewhere/do something, then the day comes and I just can’t imagine doing it. Sometimes I suck it up and go, sometimes I cancel. In the end, it’s my happiness and mental health that matters most. Your friends will understand (and if they don’t, you need new friends). Be realistic of your time and your needs as a human being. Maybe you can’t change your children’s sports schedule but you can control whether you go out to eat with the entire team afterwards (maybe you don’t have to go every week). There’s nothing wrong with cancelling to have a movie night in with your family (or by yourself!) once in a while.